Is life a set of instructions like, 'pass GO and collect $200?' Or is our story more like a ‘choose your own adventure’?
I used to believe in a simple, black and white type of existence (and in unicorns). I thought God had decided for me one husband, one career path, and one location to live. My job was to find out what those ‘one’ things were, and put them all together.
I had no option. I had no opinion. I had no oranges (sorry, I couldn’t think of anything else that started with ‘o’).
Turns out I was wrong. W-w-w-wrong. (There I said it. You’re welcome.)
I don't like admitting when I'm wrong, clearly, but i would like to clarify something upfront. I do believe many decisions have a definite and clear answer. There are lots of times I know exactly what my answer/action needs to be. For example when the Daffy Duck angel/demon cartoons appear on my shoulder, I know I should listen to the angel and swat away the Daffy Duck demon (thanks Looney Tunes for my moral compass).
I believe there are moments God gives us specific direction when we’re faced with multiple options. But what happens when each direction seems as right as the next?
Wanna know what I think? (If not, just a helpful hint that you probably came to the wrong website, I think you’re looking for Wikipedia):
When there are lots of options but no clear direction, when you have prayed but haven’t heard, I think it’s God’s way of saying, “Choose your own adventure.”
As scary as that may seem, the idea that God would trust you enough to make a decision that could alter the course of your life is a huge encouragement.
He trusts you. He trusts your heart. He trusts your decision.
“But what if I make the wrong decision?” I’m glad you asked. Again, here’s what I think (and just in case, www.wikipedia.com):
As long as your heart is in a place of humility and malleability, there is no wrong decision.
If you’re facing a crossroad, and what you hoped would be a simple, black-and-white answer is looking more like 50 shades of grey, I have two pieces of advice for you:
- Don’t read 50 Shades of Grey. It does not contain helpful insight into making decisions. So I’m told.
- Instead of losing sleep over making the wrong decision, take a deep breath and decide to decide. And then... Decide.
Oh, and one last thing. Please don’t "default decide" to the thing you think you ’should’ do. If God has given you options and has asked what you want to do, then do just that! Which option gives you butterflies? Which direction makes you want to squeal like a five-year-old-girl who’s just seen a Disney princess? Go with that.
Forget responsible. Forget safe. Forget 'should.'
Be brave, choose your own adventure, and let God work out the destination.
So, what's your decision?